Why Teens Use Drugs
One of the most common and major cause for teenagers to Teen Drug Abuse is peer pressure. Pressure on teens is a very talked about topic but only some of us realizes just how bad and dangerous this type of pressure can be. It is often rare that teens strong-arm each other into trying risky things but sometimes in order to appear more mature, grown up and cool in front of their friends teenagers are often forced into doing things like trying alcohol and drugs even when they know that this is dangerous.
Teens and Peer Pressure
As mentioned above most of the time it is rare that teens strong arm each other to do something. In fact most of the time a teen feels internal pressure to do certain things that they think their friends or peers are doing. However, there are times where your kid comes under the influence of a teen who constantly act out and is into dangerous stuff like drugs or alcohol. These types of friendships are often destructive and can push your child into dangerous stuff.
The Effects of Peer Pressure
Friendship is a necessity of life and your kid needs a social life in order to live a mentally healthy life surrounded with friends. Most of the time his or her social circle will prove to be a positive thing in his life but sometimes the wrong set of friends can also lead him to the dangerous path of drugs and alcohol.
Sometimes under the pressure of peers, teenagers often do things that they might not consider doing in case they are alone. In fact it is often seen that teenagers involve in car crashes are often pushed into making wrong decisions due to a friend who was drunk or high.
“Some children come under the influence of a close friend who constantly acts out,” says Hedrick. If this sounds like your child, your challenge is to share your point of view without criticizing the friend. Lay your worries on the table in a matter-of-fact way. For example:
Teen Peer Pressure Often Comes From Within
Teens often feel internal pressure to do the things that they think their peers are doing. “Most kids wildly overestimate the prevalence of alcohol and drug use,” says Wallace, who wrote the book, Reality Gap: Alcohol, Drugs, and Sex — What Parents Don’t Know and Kids Aren’t Telling.
Parents who want to dispel the myth that drugs and alcohol are an adolescent rite of passage can simply cite the facts. A long-term, national study of adolescents in grades 8, 10, and 12 shows that many typical teen behaviors are actually losing popularity.
- While 71% of teens have tried alcohol by the end of high school, far fewer drink to get drunk.
- In 2010, 27% of students said they got drunk in the past year. This is down from almost 40% in 1997.
- In 2010, 34% of students had ever used drugs and only 27% had done so within the past year. Teens who had ever used drugs peaked at 43% in 1997.
- Close to 31% of students reported having ever smoked a cigarette, compared to almost 54% in 1991.
Commonly Abused Drugs get a bad rep as their risks become more widely known. When teens think their friends will look down on them for taking a drug, they’re much less likely to use it. Unfortunately, this does not apply to drug use overall. As some drugs fall out of favor, new ones hit the scene. And it often takes years for teens to understand their new dangers.
Parents Assume You Outrank Peer Pressure
Your child can adopt a new dress code and lingo to fit in with friends, and still remain keenly aware of your thoughts and opinions. “Parents’ influence is much more powerful than most parents realize,” says Tom Hedrick, founding member of The Partnership for a Drug-Free America. “Not wanting to disappoint their parents is an important barrier to teens using drugs.”
Take Time to Connect and Talk With Your Teen
Being a teenager is often a dance of push and pull. “Adolescents want to be independent and dependent at the same time,” says Benjamin Siegel, MD, pediatrician and fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics’ committee on the psychosocial aspects of child & family health. “On one hand, they want to assert their independence. On the other, they need their parents.”
Your teen probably feels intense pressure to fit in. She may not know how to talk about it. She may not talk much at all. It may take extra effort to connect with her, but chances are she hopes you will. “The more we understand what kids are going through, the more empathic we can be towards them,” says Siegel.
Be the ‘Bad’ Guy
Your rules and structure give your teen a framework for understanding the world, even if he protests. When Wallace asks teens what their parents could do to discourage drinking, the answers were surprisingly simple:
- Talk to us. Teens say they want to know what their parents think and how they make decisions.
- Punish us. Teens who break rules typically wait to see what happens. If there are no consequences, the rules don’t matter.
- Limit overnight visits. Not having to go home can be too much freedom to handle.
- Wait up for us. Knowing they have to face mom or dad, or both, in a few hours makes most teens think twice about the shape they’ll be in when they get home.
Encourage Your Teen’s Opinions
Raise your child to have opinions, even if they drive you mad, says Rachel Fleissner, MD, a member of the workgroup on consumer issues for the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry. An opinionated child has practice speaking his own mind.
Fleissner tells the story of an opinionated young patient whose parents were fed up with his mouthing off. “The child is entitled to his opinion. That doesn’t mean things are always going to go his way,” she says. “He needs to learn to think through how he arrived at his opinion and whether it’s worth arguing over.”
Teens and Peer Pressure
Teach Relationship Skills
“Kids need friends. Building relationships is an important part of their development,” says Siegel, and parents have a role in this learning process. You know that relationships are often messy. Your child may not have figured that out yet. Siegel suggests frequent conversations that will help your child develop friendship skills. Open with questions such as:
- What do you like about your friend?
- What are you getting out of the friendship?
- What happens when you don’t agree with your friend?
Observe and Comment on Teen Peer Pressure
“Some children come under the influence of a close friend who constantly acts out,” says Hedrick. If this sounds like your child, your challenge is to share your point of view without criticizing the friend. Lay your worries on the table in a matter-of-fact way. For example:
- “You seem to break the rules every time Johnny comes over.”
- “I get calls from other parents when you and Johnny hang out.”
Some situations call for dramatic action. Fleissner recalls a family who moved across state lines to remove their son from a destructive friend network. He didn’t like it at the time, but thanked his parents years later.
Visualize Peer Pressure
Role-playing and visualization can help kids imagine what they would do to get out of the pressure zone. “Often, kids find themselves in the moment, doing things they never thought they would do,” says Wallace. Help your child practice warding off peer pressure by playing a game of “What if?”
- What if you were at a party and someone had a bottle of pills?
- What if you were about to get into a car and realized the driver was drunk?
The game can serve two purposes. First, it lets your child develop a peer-pressure game plan, which can include calling you. Second, it lets her know she can say no and blame it on you. “My mom would kill me,” is a perfectly good way out of these situations.
Help Teens Learn From Their Missteps
No matter what you say or do, your child may still mess up. As upset as you may be, your child probably is, too. Fleissner says parents should be ready to help their children take responsibility for their mistakes, and support them in moving on. This is an important time to help a child look at how he makes decisions. Siegel agrees. “Parents should ask questions that encourage self-reflection,” he says.
Parents can’t anticipate every social challenge their children will face. Kids who know their parents love them, who value their own opinions, and have practice thinking critically, have a greater chance of saying “No thank you.”
